You meet new people, you feel good about yourself, maybe you get laid. But there are also times when you need to take a break from dating and hang out with yourself. Maybe you want to quit drinking or start writing a novel. Yes, there are people out there who believe that finding another person is the best way to get over an ex.

I get it: Dating is exhausting. Whether you just got out of a long-term relationship or you’re tired of swiping left and right, it’s normal to feel like.

At least for the time being. And in doing so I met some great and sometimes not so great guys. But nothing really stuck. I found myself repeating the same cycle again and again; like I was acting out a scene in a movie — just with a different leading man every weeks. So, what comes next, you might be wondering… Well, I deleted my profiles on Bumble and Hinge I stopped using Tinder and Happn long ago. Meeting someone IRL now seems so much more appealing. Clara recently shared her 4-step approach to meeting people in real life on The Stripe.