I grew up in a small town in the 90’s, where I was the only non-white girl in my class at school and my skin colour was a curiosity rather than a threat. There was no racial tension, but then again, no sense of black community. There were quite literally no black people at all. When people asked me about my ethnicity, I would often just mumble something about tanning easily and change the subject, and I brushed off racist slurs like any other insult.

And nowhere is it more of an issue than in the world of dating and relationships. Tinder offers a soul-destroying glimpse into the worst and most racist of humanity.

It’s important to be open-minded when you start dating someone. in bed or leave dirty dishes on the sink like they’re curating an exhibition, but these things “If you always seem to suggest when to meet, this is a one-sided.

Have many of your priorities changed? Has experience taught you new life skills and shifted your perspective on things you previously held as absolute truth? And what about when it comes to dating and relationships? Have you learned that your worth is far more than whether a man wants you, and that you are okay with yourself; whether or not you have a partner?

And you should! You have achieved a lot, and gained a ton of knowledge and skills over the years. Together, this has rendered you one wise woman. Like you, men in midlife and beyond have experienced, matured and created good lives for themselves and these men can make fantastic partners. Yes, there are some outliers, just like there are women dating like they are still in their 20s.

Well, like us, men change and evolve. But in my work as a Dating and Relationship Coach for Women over 40, I often help women who say they know this, yet still tend to make assumptions about men based on stereotypes and expectations that originated in their teenage years and lingered. Also, their hormones have mellowed and they have broadened their vision of themselves; reducing the need and sometimes ability to rack up sexual conquests.

Finally, the grownup men who have achieved success in life know how to get what they want. Would you?